Alain's 12 Rules
A few weeks ago, I wrote my last exam of first year — completing a big transition in my life. The past few months have been a journey of exploration, learning, and realization — something I'd like to document here. Here are some important lessons (and/or changes I've made in 1st year):
- Pay attention to your surrounding environment.
In high school, many things come to you, whereas in university, you have to go to things. Keep your eyes on a swivel for interesting events and opportunities.
- Be self-confident.
Walk with your head up (eyes not looking at the ground). Introduce yourself to peers. Wave as you pass people by.
- Be self-improving.
Go to the gym. Watch what you eat and drink. Pursue what makes you happy. Care about yourself.
- Build good habits
Humans are creatures of habit, so build good ones. Get a solid sleep schedule. Do meal prep. Set aside time for chores and errands.
- Ask questions.
Getting more clarity/resolving misunderstanding is often the solution. If you're introverted like me, reach out more than you might feel is necessary.
- Notice good traits in other people.
I've shifted my perspective from having an idol — i.e. another personality I aspired to have — to wanting to copy certain behaviours from people I met.
- Be introspective.
Think and reflect about life. Reaffirm some decisions and realize mistakes in others. I've learned a lot about myself and now have a better sense of where I want to go and what I want to be.
- Recognize people's intentions.
A lot of people are good at making you feel a certain way about them. A lot of others try but are are terrible at it. Keep your relationship with others in mind.
- Make decisions.
Don't let decisions be made for you. Be active in choosing what you want in your life. Oftentimes this involves saying "yes" more.
- Be open (1).
Let people know your opinion. Let people know your calendar conflicts. Don't delay revealing anything.
- Be open (2).
Admit "I don't know". Let others speak before you do. Recognize when others are right.
- Be grateful.
Write cards. Take people out for dinner. Call them. Let them know you appreciate them.